“Out of suffering have emerged the strongest souls; the most massive characters are seared with scars.” ~Kahlil Gibran
These words came to me the other day and I thought wow this says it all! I decided to look up the words dying and heal in the dictionary. The synonyms for dying are disappearing, falling, fading, vanishing and becoming extinct. The synonyms for heal are restore to health, mend, make well, and repair. Perfect!
Do we have to be in a place where we are dying to be healed?
Do we need to be at the bottom to rise up?
I don’t know about you but I did! It was only when I said I couldn’t live anymore did my profound healing begin!
I often wonder why so many people are terrified of healing-deep healing. I ask myself, what are they so afraid of? We spend so much of our lives living in a state of discomfort holding onto patterns from the past. I continue to meet people, including the clients I work with in my practice, who acknowledge how scared they are to let go because it is all they know even if the behaviors no longer serve them.
I ask them, “Do you believe you have the capacity to change?” Often, they reply with uncertainty and share their sense of powerlessness in knowing how to go about it. That worry keeps so many from moving forward and becoming all their hearts desire.
I know first hand that healings a process that must happen from within. It takes courage and tenacity to heal. In order to really heal you must be willing to relinquish all that no longer serves you. That’s the only way healing works. We can put on temporary band-aids, but the wounds will never go away!
You might notice that your mind says one thing while your hearts says another. What appears to be simple may feel very complicated. I remember asking myself, many years ago, whether I really wanted to heal. Of course my mind said yes, but my body said no! I learned through a wonderful healer who practices the art of kinesiology that what our mind wants isn’t necessarily transferred to our body. In retrospect, I understand that very clearly. Of course I wanted to heal from a lifelong crippling disease but was I ready to make healing my one and only priority? Was I willing to dig deep and do the intense work that it would take to rewrite my DNA? Seven years ago I was clueless to what that even meant. Today I know the difference and I continue on my healing path with gratitude every day of my life. Today my biggest joy is empowering others to have the courage to heal as I have done.
Take a moment and ask yourself, “Do I really want to heal? Do I want to get rid of all the ‘stuff’ that keeps me stuck, passive, alone, angry, depressed, controlling.” The list looks different for each of us but you can trust what you’re identifying is getting in the way of inner peace and wellness.
When you invite in the healing process you open to all possibilities. It’s about knowing, opening and relinquishing. It’s what your heart and soul are required to do as you journey through the process to be-come at peace with yourself and the world around you! It’s nothing short of a transformational miracle! I know, I’m on the journey.
Make a list of everything you would like to change about yourself i.e. behaviors, patterns, and reactions. Ask yourself, “What brings me joy? When do I feel deep sadness?
Write it down. Own it. Understand it.
Whatever you do, don’t judge yourself! You’ve had enough judgment in your life!
Healing begins with you opening your heart to be the person you desire to be.